Getting Started and Beyond

Tabletop role-playing games (TTRPGs) offer incredible opportunities for children to develop creativity, problem-solving skills, social collaboration, and storytelling abilities—all while having tremendous fun. But finding the right game can be challenging, especially if you are looking to introduce very young players to TTRPGs.

This topic, a biggie, will be covered in two parts. In this first part, I’ll talk about for how to start and keep your young adventurers rolling dice and telling stories. In the second part, I’ll suggest some game titles for various age groups.

Rules, Rules, Rules

Many popular systems, like rules heavy Dungeons & Dragons, Pathfinder, Gurps, Starfinder and Call of Cthulhu are both too frightening or too complex for most young players before their teen years. Additionally, not all families are comfortable with games that have melee as an option. They want something a bit more exploration or roleplay based.

Complex rule sets might overwhelm or confuse younger players who are trying to learn them, and frustrate or intimidate parents trying to teach them. Unless the Game Master (GM), often a parent, is willing to do a great deal of work, it means spending time and thought on adapting or scaling the rules to suit their kid player. And this doesn’t even begin to address the side quests, which may involve befriending the ravening orcs or adopting a bloodthirsty wyvern.

Fortunately, there's a growing category of TTRPGs specifically designed with young players and their needs in mind. These games maintain the imaginative core of TTRPGs, using simplified mechanics that children can easily grasp, yet still allowing them to exercise their storytelling chops.

Why TTRPGs Are Great for Kids

Before diving into specifics for young kids, let's consider what makes tabletop role-playing games so valuable for children of any age:

• Creativity Development: Players imagine characters, visualize settings and invent plot twists to bring the world you are co-creating to life.

• Problem-Solving Skills: Players face challenges that often require creative thinking, and must choose whether to melee (fight), parlay (talk) or do something else to overcome adversity.

• Social Skills: Players practice taking turns, listening, providing accountability and advocating for themselves and for others.

• Collaboration Skills: Players contribute, as much or as little as they wish, to creating a shared narrative that the GM and all players agree upon.

• Math Skills: Players practice simple calculations or basic math facts from adding numbers on dice rolls. Players are laying groundwork for the higher math concepts of statistics and probability through dice outcomes.

• Language Arts Skills: Players practice reading and interpreting texts as well as listening comprehension and visualization skills. The oral storytelling components of many games grow vocabulary.

• Agency: Players have the opportunity to make meaningful choices by weighing potential consequences, hearing the advice of other players or NPCs, and listening to their own conscience. Players also begin to make choices that serve the group rather than just themselves.

• Resilience: Within the game consequences arise in a safe-to-fail space. Players test what works for both themselves and the group, as well as what does not, and have the opportunity to learn from it.

• Teachable Moments: GMs are offered myriad opportunities to unpack what worked well with their players, and what didn’t. Within the context of the game, GMs can help players work on a particular skill without it seeming obvious or out of context.

Tips for Running TTRPGs with Younger Players

Setting Expectation

A Session Zero, the first session is a great time to sit down to go over rules, voice expectations, ask/answer questions and cover anything else that may need saying. This is a good gaming practice for GMs leading groups of every age.

• Session Length: Keep sessions short: 30-45 minutes for very young children, 1-2 hours for older kids, but your mileage may vary.

• Rules: Start introducing your players to core mechanics only, then bring in other game rules one or two at a time. Add house rules (rules specific to your game only) as needed.

• Breaks: Be prepared to take breaks when attention wanders. GMs should stay alert to their players, erring on the side of too little rather than too much play.

• Flexibility: Decide which hills to die on. Remember, young children are learning resilience. Helping them navigate failure can be a teachable moment, but keep in mind the game you're playing with your kid is supposed to be fun for both of you.

Creating a Safe, Supportive and Inclusive Space

• Using Safety Tools: Use simplified safety tools like "green light/red light" or frequent check-ins to gauge how things are landing with your players. A Session Zero question or two might identify what your players don’t want in their game or what frightens them.

• Collaborating on House Rules: Establish house rules together about taking turns and respecting others' ideas and needs. Ask the players themselves as often as you are able what is fair within your game. This is a great way to foster compassion and understanding.

• Saying “Yes” : Remember, these are fantasy role playing games. Fun trumps reality every time. Don’t shoot down any ideas, no matter how outrageous, and incorporate them as often as you are able into the world you and your players are collaboratively building.

• Framing Failure: Present failures as interesting plot twists rather than fiascos or punishments. Minimizing your disappointed player’s big feelings should be avoided, and humor may not always be welcome. If it’s upsetting to your player in the moment, put a pin in it and circle back to it later to help your player process what happened in the game and what they might do different next time.

• Bending the Rules: It’s going to happen: that critical failure when Hogwrath the Barbarian can’t charm the unicorn or the Warlock Shakira fumbles a Fireball against the ravening hordes. If there are tears or frustration, stop the game. Weigh the benefits of the teachable moment over turning a child off to gaming. A “do-over,” replaying a situation to learn through making different choices in a given situation, is a good move as a GM, provided it is ok with all your players.

Adapting Your Game Master Style

• Lush Language: Use vivid, sensory-rich descriptions to engage imagination. Bonus points for building vocabulary!

• Various Voices: Even simple voice changes for different characters can greatly enhance immersion. They also help your players keep track of who’s who. Also, refer to players by their in-game name, to help your kids role play in their roleplaying game.

• Great Gear: Dice, props, minis, maps, or illustrations can help players maintain focus and clarify situations. The use of fidget items or art supplies can also help keep players from drifting or prevent boredom while waiting for their next turn.

• First, Fun: Be ready to bend or simplify rules when they get in the way of the fun. Include your players in rules interpretation or discovering what feels fair to them, and take their advice when you can. For example, ask them what comes next or what the name of the NPC or the town might be.

• Complete Commitment: Children, especially young children expect a beginning, a middle and an ending in any game they’re playing. You may want to make sure that each game session is a discrete, self-contained and complete story arc, and not necessarily related to anything that came before or after.

• Memorable Model: Your willingness to try, even imperfectly, will encourage your players to take chances with something they may not succeed at the first time. Genuine statements like “Nice try!” or “Bad luck!” or “Way to go!” show your players how to lose and win graciously. Maintaining patience and a sense of humor are likely to result in memorable adventures and valuable learning opportunities for your young players.

In Conclusion, For This Week

The easiest way to introduce your younger child to TTRPGs is to meet them where they are developmentally. Choosing one of the simpler systems provides an excellent entry point. Ideally, the game you select has minimal preparation required, so you can guide your child through the magical world you create together and remember that the goal is fun and engagement. Perfect rules mastery is far less important than creating an enjoyable experience where everyone feels heard, included, supported and creative.

Next time, I’ll be back to recommend a few TTRPG some titles for various age groups. Until then, happy gaming!

Have you tried any TTRPGs with children? What was your experience like? Share your stories in the comments below!

Overview

More than a decade ago, the word of the moment at SXSW.edu was “gamification.” The frisson of excitement was palpable among my fellow teachers who crowded into sessions that promised us universal engagement of our charges.

Why? Because as educators, administrators and curriculum designers, we're constantly searching for that sweet spot where learning feels like play. But what if the most effective content doesn't announce itself as educational at all? What if it's secretly embedded in the adventure hooks that pull us into stories, games, and experiences that carry a learning payload?

The Power of the Hook

Narrative hooks are the storytelling devices that draw participants into an experience—the mysterious map in the attic, the strange noise from the basement, the desperate message in a bottle, the cryptic tweet on your phone. They create curiosity, promise excitement and, most importantly, they motivate engagement without external rewards.

This is precisely why they're perfect vessels for educational content.

Learning in Disguise

Consider these examples of stealth learning through engaging activities:

• The Mystery Box: A locked container with a series of puzzles that must be solved to gain access. Each puzzle requires applying scientific principles or mathematical concepts, but learners are too focused on the mystery to notice they're practicing academic skills.

• The Time-Travel Narrative: Historical facts and cultural contexts are absorbed organically when framed as critical information needed to navigate a time-travel adventure. "You've landed in 1793 France. To blend in and survive, you'll need to understand the political climate of the Revolution.
  

• The Alien Communication: Decoding messages from extraterrestrials can teach linguistics, symbolic reasoning, and pattern recognition. The motivation to communicate with an alien species drives learners to acquire these skills organically.

Why Stealth Learning Works

• Intrinsic Motivation: When learning is embedded in compelling adventures, the motivation comes from within. There's no need for gold stars or grades—the adventure itself is the reward.

• Reduced Anxiety: Many learners experience anxiety when faced with educational challenges. When these same challenges are disguised as part of an adventure, that anxiety often disappears.

• Contextual Relevance: Abstract concepts become concrete when they're needed to solve immediate problems within an adventure. The brain retains information better when it can see its practical application.

• Emotional Engagement: Adventures evoke emotional responses, and emotionally charged experiences create stronger, more lasting memories than emotionally neutral ones.
  

Implementing Stealth Learning

So how can we create effective stealth learning experiences?

For Educators

• Design or implement classroom "missions" that require subject knowledge to complete

• Apply or adapt gaming rules that reward creativity, leadership and audacity

• Transform assessments into puzzles and activities that will have narrative significance

• Build activities to be flexible and interactive, supporting multiple paths to achieve the desired learning goals

Author’s Note: Every classroom teacher I know has little free time to create this type of activity for their students, but these sorts of tools are available through Teachers Pay Teachers, a basic internet search, using an AI or asking the kids themselves what they are currently playing. Who among your colleagues can help or share co-creation? Armed with this, teachers can make a compelling case to administrators and department chairs for support in developing and implementing lesson plans that are more engaging, if more daring. Trust the process: You CAN become That Teacher, the one who gets remembered, along with the content you are conveying.

For Educational Game and Curriculum Designers

• Create problems that require specific knowledge to solve, then provide resources to discover that knowledge

• Balance learning with engagement, for all types of learners

• Design activities for both individual and group work

• Build social-emotional learning into your game for bonus points

For Parents

• Choose games and activities with hidden educational value

• Ask questions that extend the learning potential of “recreational” activities

• Follow your child's interests and find the educational angles within them

• Play these games and participate in these activities with your child

Real-World Success Stories

• Minecraft Education Edition: Players build ancient civilizations, explore mathematical concepts through construction, and learn coding principles—all while thinking they're just playing.

• Escape Rooms: These immersive puzzle experiences require critical thinking, teamwork, and often subject-specific knowledge, yet participants view them purely as entertainment.

• Role-Playing Games (RPGs): From tabletop D&D to elaborate LARPs, role-playing games often involve historical research, budgetary or probability calculations, and complex problem-solving disguised as entertainment.

The Ethics of “Stealthing”

Is there something manipulative about hiding educational content in entertainment experiences? Not if we’re transparent about our ultimate goals.

The key is creating experiences that are genuinely engaging on their own, where the educational value is an integrated feature rather than a hidden agenda.

You can dial back the cringe factor, particularly among older learners, by simply being honest about what an activity is designed to do in your classroom. As students approach the tween and teen years, they develop a radar for being “railroaded” into learning. In gaming terminology, railroading means giving the illusion of choice while subtly forcing players toward a predetermined outcome. Savvy students quickly detect this manipulation, which can breed resentment and resistance.

Instead, own what you’re trying to do in the classroom: teach content. Be forthright about learning objectives while making the journey engaging. This transparency builds trust and respects students’ intelligence. When appropriate, explain the purpose behind activities and how they connect to broader educational goals.

The most effective approach balances stealth with transparency by:

• Creating genuinely engaging experiences where learning feels natural

• Offering meaningful choices that accommodate different learning styles

• Being honest about educational objectives when students inquire

• Focusing on intrinsic motivation rather than trickery

• Involving students in designing their own learning adventures

When students understand why they’re learning something and have agency in how they learn it, the “stealth” isn’t about deception—it’s about making the learning process so engaging that the effort feels worthwhile and, ideally, enjoyable.

The Future of Learning

Gaming, devices and AI are here to stay, integral parts of your students’ lives. As the lines between education, entertainment and technology continue to blur, stealth learning through adventure hooks represents a promising frontier. Imagine educational content so compelling that learners seek it out voluntarily, where the adventure and the learning are inseparable.

The most powerful learning doesn't announce itself with textbooks, worksheets and tests. It arrives disguised as adventure, slips past our pushback at compulsory education and embeds itself in our memories through the power of story and play.

What adventure will you design to smuggle learning into eager minds?

NEXT TIME: Getting Started: Simple TTRPGs Designed Specifically for Young Players

What are your experiences with stealth learning? Have you created or participated in educational adventures? Share your stories in the comments below!

The Cast, the Setting, the Plot

I’ve gamed with the same group of players, aged 14-18, on Zoom most weeks since the COVID lockdown began. Two players started in-person gaming with me in 2018 when they were just 9 and 10, while our newest member joined this Wednesday group in 2021. This group is nearly 18 months into The Curse of Strahd, a retooled Gothic D&D campaign from the 1970s, our second big campaign together.

I’m privileged to have watched these kids grow tremendously as both players and human beings over these past years.

A Monty “Haul” Moment

When Liam’s character, Thurkk, found a 6th-level spell scroll, I impulsively invented the name “Conjure Inferno” without considering its implications. Together, the players and I collaborated on creating a spell of startling power and breathtaking scope. A tactically brilliant player, Liam immediately recognized its potential. He tucked it away, where it remained unused and seemingly forgotten for months.

The Werewolf Attack

Recently, during a side quest with just three 4th-7th level player characters (PCs), a random encounter roll led to a werewolf ambush. Werewolves are a particularly challenging foe for lower-level PCs. Under D&D 5e rules, they are immune to damage from nonmagical weapons.

The situation was dire—the party had no magical weapons nor magical ammunition, no spellcasters, and the threat of lycanthropy loomed over anyone bitten by one of the three aggressive werewolves, in a hybrid human-wolf form, acting as highway robbers.

The game has progressed long enough that the PCs have acquired plenty of valuables. They would keenly feel it if they were to lose their hard-won loot.

Conjure Inferno and Komzin

When diplomacy failed, the Conjure Inferno scroll is passed to Archer’s PC, Krelldutt, who has the highest chance of casting it successfully. He deploys the spell in the middle of the menacing pack of werewolves, carefully targeting it to exclude Komzin, the nearest PC to the action. Despite impressive damage, two injured werewolves escaped the flames. Theo’s character, Komzin, attempted to grapple one of the creatures, hoping to hurl it back into the inferno, thereby killing it.

And rolled a critical failure—a 1 on a d20 die.

I offered Theo a choice: describe what happens to Komzin or draw from the Critical Failure deck, a set of cards that I sometimes offer my players. These carry random suggestions of what particular flavor of disaster befalls the unfortunate, blundering PC. They are sometimes amusing and occasionally calamitous. With his companions suggesting Komzin might fall into the flames, Theo wisely chose the deck’s uncertain fate over the guaranteed disaster of the still-blazing inferno.

Luck of the Draw

From the deck came the perfect card for this situation: “BLASTOFF: You are thrown 1d6×10 feet in the air in a random direction.” Laughter followed, then silence as Theo rolled the direction in which Komzin would fly. Unfortunately for Theo, this is straight into the inferno.

The Growth Mindset of Gaming

“I’ll probably be fine,” came Theo’s matter-of-fact response. No anger, no upset, no combativeness—just a realistic assessment of his character’s lousy luck.

This moment represents the culmination of years of personal growth for Theo. Role Playing Games (RPGs) provide a unique laboratory for developing grit—the perseverance to face setbacks without becoming discouraged. For young players especially, losing a beloved character or watching plans collapse can feel genuinely devastating.

What makes tabletop RPGs particularly valuable for building resilience is their blend of structured consequences with creative problem-solving. Unlike video games where failure often means restarting, RPGs teach players to adapt to unexpected outcomes and find new paths to move forward. Theo didn’t rage against his bad luck; he just accepted it, assessed what he had left and began calculating his next move.

This growth mindset extends beyond the gaming table. Players learn that failure isn’t necessarily permanent but informative—each setback contains lessons for future encounters. Players develop emotional regulation by practicing disappointment in a safe-to-fail environment where the stakes feel high but remain ultimately fictional.

The collaborative storytelling aspect also reinforces that success isn’t solely individual. Sometimes your character falls into magical fire, but your companions might still save the day—teaching that resilience isn’t just personal grit but that you can also rely upon the support of your community .

In Conclusion…

I can’t claim that D&D is anything other than one of the many things that has contributed to Theo’s emotional growth, but it has played a role. For Theo and countless other players, RPGs offer not just entertainment but a training ground for life’s unpredictable challenges, fostering patience, adaptability, and the courage to roll the dice again despite past failures. This transformation from frustration to acceptance to growth represents the true magic that happens around the gaming table.

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Thank you for rolling for initiative! Welcome back to A Heroic Journey. Role-playing games (RPGs) offer far more than simple entertainment for neurodivergent children. They are powerful, transformative experiences that provide unique opportunities for social learning, emotional development, and personal expression.

Understanding the Magic of RPGs

Neurodivergent children often struggle with traditional social interactions. RPGs create a structured yet flexibly responsive environment where they can safely explore complex social dynamics. Unlike unstructured social situations that can feel overwhelming, tabletop RPGs provide clear rules, predictable frameworks, and collaborative storytelling that can be comforting to players.

Practical Benefits for Neurodivergent Players:

Social Skills Development

RPGs teach critical social skills in a low-pressure, safe-to-fail, engaging context:

• Communication: Players are drawn through play to articulate their characters' thoughts and actions. They can practice verbal expression in a supportive setting.

• Empathy: By embodying different characters, players develop perspective-taking skills and emotional understanding of other points of view.

• Collaboration: Cooperative gameplay encourages teamwork and negotiation, skills that can be challenging for all players, not only those who are neurodiverse.

• Self-Advocacy: In the midst of the game, participants must defend or assess decisions about their actions. This may mean standing by their choices that work out or hearing the immediate feedback of natural consequences from less ideal choices.

• Leadership: It may also mean assisting a fellow player or the group with ideas or suggestions, and advocating for any they might champion.

Emotional Regulation and Exploration

These games offer a unique space for emotional exploration:

• Characters become safe proxies through which children can experiment with different emotional responses. Players can also safely experiment with other ways of being or explore alternative ways to interact with others.

• The game's narrative structure provides predictability while allowing for creative problem-solving. As in life, the choices may feel very wide open, but unlike IRL, there are closely proscribed rules dictating the outcomes.

• Challenging in-game scenarios helps children develop emotional resilience in a controlled environment. An understanding group and a compassionate game master (GM) can help a frustrated player navigate disappointment.

Cognitive Strengths Amplified

Many neurodivergent traits become superpowers in RPG settings:

• Detail-oriented thinking helps in tracking complex game rules and character interactions

• Creative or out-of-the-box problem-solving is celebrated and rewarded, even if it doesn’t work out in-game

• Hyperfocus can become an asset when deeply engaging with character development

Implementation:

Sensory-Friendly Adaptation

Thoughtful RPG facilitators can modify games to be neurodiversity friendly:

• Providing visual character sheets and clear rules

• Offering sensory-friendly sound protection, digital dice rollers and visually uncluttered game materials and playing space

• Creating flexible character creation processes to allow the GM to say “yes” to players as often as possible

• Allowing alternative communication methods during gameplay. Direct messaging (DMs) or even handwritten notes are great ways for players to communicate with their GM.

Choosing the Right RPG

Not all RPGs are created equal for neurodivergent children. Look for:

• Simple, clear rule systems

• Cooperative gameplay mechanics

• Character creation that allows detailed customization

• Supportive, patient GMs who understand neurodiversity or who know your child well. The GM can be a parent!

Recommended RPGs for Neurodivergent Children

1. Dungeon & Dragons Starter Sets: Structured yet creative

2. Kids on Bikes: Narrative-driven with flexible rules

3. No Thank You, Evil!: Specifically designed for younger players

4. Masks: A New Generation: Focuses on character emotions and growth

Creating an Inclusive RPG Environment

Parents and game masters can support neurodivergent players by:

• Establishing clear expectations

• Reviewing the rules at the start of game play, then repeating as needed

• Using visual or auditory cues

• Providing breaks

• Checking in frequently with players

• Celebrating individual playing styles

• Emphasizing fun over competitive achievement

Conclusion

RPGs are more than just games for neurodivergent children—they're transformative experiences that celebrate unique perspectives, build confidence, and create meaningful social connections.

By understanding and embracing the potential of RPGs, we can provide neurodivergent children with powerful tools for personal growth, social learning, and unbridled imagination.

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The Backstory

Neurodiversity acknowledges that both thinking and behavior vary greatly within human populations. Neurodivergence describes the spectrum of ways people's brains take in, process, and respond to information and stimuli. Neurodiversity includes ADHD, autism spectrum, dyslexia and dyscalculia, OCD, and other conditions that may not always bring 504 services in a school setting.

For parents of neurodiverse children and educators working with neurodiverse students, finding engaging activities that naturally support cognitive development can be challenging. While traditional educational interventions have their place, tabletop role-playing games (RPGs) like Dungeons & Dragons are emerging as powerful, yet underutilized tools for developing executive function skills in a context that many neurodiverse children find naturally motivating and accessible.

Understanding Executive Function Challenges

Executive function encompasses the cognitive processes that help us plan our actions, focus our attention, recall multistep instructions, switch between several tasks, and regulate our emotions. For neurodiverse children, these skills often develop differently or require additional support.

Traditional approaches to building executive function typically involve:

• Direct instruction of strategies

• Highly structured environments

• External reward systems

• Repetitive practice of isolated skills

This is where tabletop RPGs offer a compelling alternative.

How RPGs Naturally Support Executive Function

1. Working Memory Enhancement

For a child with working memory challenges, these demands might seem overwhelming at first glance. In RPGs, players must:

• Follow a set of rules, quite often complex

• Remember details about the game world and its story

• Maintain awareness of their character's abilities and inventory

• Recall previous events and how they connect to current situations

However, in a highly engaging, story-driven context players are intrinsically motivated to remember these details. The GM and other players also serve as natural supports, creating a scaffolded environment for working memory practice and development.

2. Cognitive Flexibility Practice

RPGs require players to:

• Adapt to unexpected narrative turns

• Recalibrate strategies when plans go sideways

• Shift between different types of thinking (creative storytelling, tactical problem-solving, social negotiation)

• Consider different perspectives/POVs through character roleplay

These constant opportunities to practice cognitive shifting occur naturally within the flow of the game, unlike isolated drills or exercises targeting the same skills. In this way, the RPG mimics real life and allows the player a safe space to practice shifting and refocusing attention.

3. Planning and Organization Skills

Successfully navigating an RPG adventure demands:

• Formulating multistep plans

• Prioritizing objectives

• Managing resources (character abilities, items, finances, spell slots)

• Organizing information (through character sheets, notes, maps)

Each game session presents authentic planning challenges with meaningful consequences, increasing engagement and generalization of these skills. Because many RPGs are not played in real time, players have the luxury of forethought: the group can plan any given action out of game time. They also are afforded the opportunity to think through the results of natural consequences as a group, or brainstorm the allocation of assets held by another PC.

4. Impulse Control and Emotional Regulation

The collaborative nature of RPGs cultivates:

• Taking turns and waiting for others

• Considering consequences before actions

• Managing frustration when dice rolls or story events don't go as hoped

• Separating in-character and out-of-character emotions

The social contract of the game provides natural boundaries and immediate feedback on impulsive behavior, making self-regulation practice inherently meaningful. Many RPGs require the player to narrate the actions of their PC, and both the group as well as the GM can provide in-the-moment reactions and the opportunity for support in thinking through the consequences of a choice.

Real Benefits for Neurodiverse Children

Research and clinical observations are beginning to validate what many RPG-playing families have discovered through experience. A 2021 study in the Journal of Child and Family Studies found that structured D&D sessions significantly improved executive function measures in adolescents with ADHD, with effects comparable to traditional cognitive interventions but with higher engagement and completion rates.

And in Conclusion…

For neurodiverse children who often experience traditional skill-building exercises as tedious or disconnected from their interests, tabletop RPGs offer a revolutionary approach to developing executive function. By embedding complex cognitive demands within engaging narratives and supportive social contexts, these games transform what might otherwise be frustrating drills into adventures that children eagerly anticipate.

Kids who might resist every executive function workbook, therapy or app might try playing RPGs. As a former classroom teacher, I can say that when my students began playing D&D, I watched them spontaneously create organization systems for character information, plan multiple sessions ahead, and regulate disappointment when things didn't go as planned—all skills I'd been trying to share with them for years.

By bringing RPGs into our parenting and educational approaches, we can harness their natural capacity to support cognitive development while honoring neurodiverse children's needs for engagement, autonomy, and joy in the learning process.

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And they may keep going, reenacting this scene again and again. But what are these children getting out of this game? To adult eyes, both the story and the dialogue seem nearly identical. So what’s going on?

What are Role Playing Games?

These children are learning about relationships, the world, and their place in it. This is imaginative play, an early childhood form of role playing game (RPG), which is an interactive form of storytelling. This type of play allows children to explore many things: feeling more powerful or knowledgeable, seeing the world from other viewpoints, making choices, cooperating in play.

This collaboration requires children to listen to one another, take turns, compromise, follow directions, and make decisions. These are skills that the PreK set will need to master as their world expands.

Why the Endless Do-Overs?

• Testing Outcomes. Children are born researchers who understand that sometimes changing one small thing can vastly affect an outcome. Will the other players respond differently? How does this affect the story? Iterations allow them to find answers to these, and other, questions.

• Exploring Choices. Occasionally, a choice in play has natural consequences that result in unwanted outcomes, and the players rescript their game to get a different result. They are failing in a safe space and learning perseverance. They are also beginning to recognize boundaries, and how to react when rules get broken.

• Learning Visualization. RPGs call on players to form a picture in their minds about what is happening and to think metaphorically, allowing one thing to represent another. These skills are used in both reading and math readiness.

Do Older Kids Play RPGs?

Like their preschool counterparts, older children often participate in imaginative play, with a few key differences. Younger elementary-aged children frequently still engage in open-ended RPGs: playing house or school, pretending to run a store. As they reach the tween years, some kids begin to play tabletop RPG games (TTRPGs) Dungeons & Dragons, Magic: The Gathering, Kids on Bikes, and others.

• Following Rules. Games, including RPGs, have more rules in middle childhood, imposing organizational and behavioral demands on participants.

• Playing Cooperatively. To extend the game with others, players must become less rigid and self-regulate more. Sharing both time and props with other players has the built-in reward of a group of co-collaborators who are likely to return to the game again and again.

• Planning Ahead. Quite often, the “game” will show up as a lot of set up but little actual playacting. It’s about process, not product. When school-aged children say they are “playing,” frequently they are preparing for the game they have in mind. They are practicing organizational skills. By projecting what they will need to play their game successfully, they are planning.

How About Teens?

Teens play many of the same TTRPGs as their younger counterparts, but with several key differences.

• Pushing Boundaries. Rather than simply learning and applying the rules, teens look for ways to use game rules to their group’s advantage.

• Connecting Kids. RPGs, as with much of adolescence, is about peer relationships. Teen players have a deeper interest in role-playing (parlay) than fighting (melee).

• Building Skills. RPG-playing teens play more tactically, planning ahead for potential situations and challenges. They are also practicing self-regulation, time/resource management, and flexibility.

• Staying Safe. RPGs can be safe spaces to explore a wide variety of behaviors as the Game Master (GM) narrates events, settings, and non-player characters (NPCs). Skillful arbitration of game rules and interpersonal dynamics can be tricky, and an experienced GM is a must. Keeping lines of communication open with your RPG-playing teen and their GM is recommended.

What About Kids Who Are Neurodiverse?

Neurodiversity acknowledges that both thinking and behavior are diverse within human populations. Neurodivergence describes the spectrum of ways people's brains take in, process, and respond to information and stimuli. Neurodiversity includes ADHD, autism spectrum, dyslexia and dyscalculia, OCD, and other diagnoses.

• Practicing Skills. RPGs can be effective learning tools used to help everyone, not just neurodiverse people, practice specific social and organizational skills in low-risk environments. Empathy, collaboration, and listening are required of all players to create a successful long-term RPG campaign, and failing safely reinforces learning.

• Comforting Rules. RPGs, despite the apparent large number of choices they offer their players, provide the comfort of a set of usually highly defined rules. Having a set of expressly stated rules helps individuals who are practicing successful social interactions.

And in Conclusion…

Ultimately, the goal for RPGs is not about who wins or loses, but extending the play for as long as possible. Children of every age, and adults too, can benefit from playing RPGs, which are not only fun but let players acquire and practice social and organizational skills needed to succeed in life.